Five Unconscious Ways We Hold Ourselves Back

It feels lazy to rest and do "nothing."

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Rarely

I really don't know how to rest or take a break.

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I am prone to procrastination.

Often

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I feel a strong need to be right.

Often

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I like to smooth over conflict as quickly as possible.

Often

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I can get so busy that I forget to eat, drink or even go to the bathroom.

Often

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I am described as giving, reliable and always ready to help out.

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I accept constructive criticism openly because it helps me to be more efficient.

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I want to show that I am capable.

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10.

I fine-tune, tweak or improve things and need a deadline to complete or turn something in.

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11.

When I want things done well and on time, I need to do it myself.

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12.

People comment on how much I can get accomplished in one day.

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13.

It is hard for me to say no. When I do say no, I feel the need to apologize or justify.

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14.

I find myself apologizing a lot.

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15.

Even when I'm really tired, I tell myself to pull up my proverbial boot straps and keep going.

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16.

I truly do not like to stop; I enjoy being busy and keeping my calendar full.

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17.

I am very determined. Nothing stands in my way.

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18.

I become defensive when given constructive criticism.

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19.

I love to win awards, receive acknowledgements and be recognized for my efforts.

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20.

I take on responsibilities or agree to commitments even when I'm already overwhelmed or overscheduled.

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21.

I want to be ok with "good enough" but it is hard for me.

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22.

I have high expectations for myself and have been called a high-achiever.

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23.

I do my best to fit in and don't want to be disliked by anyone.

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Rarely

24.

I worry about being seen as a slacker or judged for not completing enough at work or at home.

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25.

I feel stuck and that I'm repeatedly "pushing boulders uphill."

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Rarely

26.

Self advocating feels confrontational and makes me anxious.

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Rarely

27.

I love a "to do" list and checking items off (most people like this, but I need this).

Often

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Rarely

28.

I believe I have to work hard to make things happen and for my work to have value.

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29.

I replay, analyze and critique what I could have said or should have done differently.

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30.

I have to hold myself back from fixing a mistake or giving advice when I haven't been asked.

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31.

I really want to do things "just right" and seek out ways to improve.

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32.

I worked in and/or grew up in a culture where productivity is highly valued and it has stayed with me.

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33.

I struggle with feeling like an imposter or a fraud.

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34.

I feel that my kindness and generosity are taken advantage of by others.

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Rarely

35.

I will work hard until I get sick or am exhausted.

Often

Sometimes

Rarely

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